Being a single parent isn’t for the faint of heart. Honestly, nothing in life really is. But when you’re carrying the load without a built-in support system, the weight can hit hard. Some days you may have help: carpools, babysitters, family you trust. Other days, it’s just you. On those days, here are a few safe, sanity-saving ideas I used to grab a breather when I needed it most:
For little ones:
- Coloring or sticker books
- A “quiet box” with puzzles or safe toys they only get during downtime
- Educational TV (set a timer for an hour max)
For elementary kids:
- A silent reading or “quiet time” game (timer + small reward at the end)
- Building sets or crafts they can do solo
- Kid-friendly audiobooks or podcasts
For teens:
- Journaling prompts or sketching time
- A short walk, workout, or dance break (gets energy out)
- Educational shows, documentaries, or even supervised screen time that inspires
And for you (while they’re occupied)
First, if your kids are old enough to understand, set a boundary: “Don’t disturb mommy unless it’s an emergency.”
While kids are awake & safely occupied:
- My Grandma’s Reset: Lie on your back, gently pull your knees in, breathe deeply for 5 minutes, relax your shoulders, and face more with each exhale.
- Step outside on the porch or balcony for a few deep breaths of fresh air (keep the door cracked if needed).
- Sip a glass of water, tea, or coffee slowly, no rushing.
- Play calming background music or nature sounds while kids color, read, or watch TV.
- Write a single gratitude note or short prayer in a journal.
- Do light stretches (arms overhead, shoulder rolls, neck release).
When kids are napping or asleep:
- Power nap (set an alarm so you don’t oversleep).
- Take an unrushed shower or bath.
- Read a book, devotional, or magazine you enjoy.
- Call or text a friend for a quick check-in.
- Journal a page. Unload your thoughts and let your mind reset.
When you can carve a longer moment (someone else is watching them):
- Take a solo walk, even just around the block.
- Exercise (Pilates, Zone 2 exercises, quick home workout).
- Work on a hobby or something creative just for you.
- Cook or bake something you enjoy, not just what’s needed.
The heart here: tiny resets while kids are occupied + bigger resets once they’re down/asleep = sanity savers. None of this replaces the need for community, but in those solo moments, small systems like these can give you just enough breathing room to reset.
